hank moon wrote:howdy squoil
i've had my share of weird interactions w/co-workers over the years. what's worked best for me is to have the conversation offsite, out-of-office, what have you. might consider asking for a lunch, making a point to say you need to talk to him about something personal, semi-related to business, etc.
if he's clueless, it's just gonna be a bit awkward - might as well get it over with quickly (...easy to say!)
hank
Hiya Hank,
It's good advice, except I don't wanna!
But ya'll have convinced me that I must say something the next time. And while private would be better, he's made so many comments to me publicly, I'm just gonna do it next time. I've been spending almost all my time at a customer's so I haven't been in my office all that much lately. But I still go to the office maybe once/day. He was out yesterday.
I was joking with two other co-workers in the pantry about "dating" (one unrelated comment led to another and another and we wound up on dating). The one guy feigned insult that I didn't consider him for dating--dude, aside from the fact you're at least 15 years too young, AND that dating coworkers is bad idea, I took it as a compliment. More joking.
The two guys seemed to branch the discussion off in a direction I hadn't originally intended, but that's OK. They said guys were especially clueless about interacting with women. They said I would need to let a guy know I was interested quite blatantly, because otherwise a guy wouldn't know. "I'm not interested in any guys that I can think of." But it does speak to the fact that a lot of men are totally clueless and that LB clearly, after years, doesn't get that my not responding to him DOESN'T mean he ought to try even harder.
But, though this is in the present and bothering me, I certainly recognize it's not a big problem. Compare me with the women in the FLDS polyg community. Now them's big problems. (No, don't turn this into a religious discussion!)